NVC and Decision Making (by Miki Kashtan)

I have been gnawing on the whole concept of NVC and decision-making recently, and I came across and article written by fellow NVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, titled, "Maximizing Willingness: Facilitating Efficiency in Collaborative Decision-Making."




Miki is one of the co-founders of Bay NVC and is an instructor in their annual Leadership Program, where I understand they teach and practice these principles for decision-making.

To read the full article, click here.

Here is an excerpt:

Why Collaborative Decision-Making?

The principle of including people in decision-making can often be a hard sell because most people don’t have successful experiences combining inclusivity with efficiency. If one person makes the decision, or a management team, or a majority vote, as the case may be, the process appears faster and more efficient, qualities highly sought after in the high-speed environment of modern workplaces in particular.

In my experience, however, such shortcuts can be costly later. Including needs and perspectives of all parties affected by the decision is not just about making the care for everyone visible. It’s also about effectiveness, and about leaders and decision-makers having access to information critical to the success of whatever strategy they want to implement.

When it comes to implementation, suddenly there can be a gap, a problem, an issue that is blocking the implementation. Often it’s delayed because people are afraid to speak for fear of consequences, or are discouraged about being heard, or don’t trust their needs and perspectives matter...

Breathing Life into my NVC work -- NVC and Abundance

I am copying here a recent email I sent to the "Nonviolent Communication and Abundance Project" that I co-founded with fellow NVC trainer, Francois Beausoleil.



It's about a topic that has a lot of juice for me lately -- how does the notion of abundance and sufficiency relate to Compassionate Communication.

Some questions that have come alive in me:

Q: Can I be in integrity receiving money in exchange for sharing NVC?

Q: Are NVC and Abundance Consciousness in harmony? Are they the same thing?


I want to share with you the single most effective "Key to Success" I have found in creating an abundant income for myself sharing NVC:

** Breathing Life into events that I organize **

WHAT DO I MEAN BY "BREATHING LIFE" INTO AN EVENT?

I hold events as though they are living organisms that require care and nurturing, much like a puppy dog requires nurturing from its mother, or human baby needs nurturing from his or her caregivers.

Too often, I perceive that facilitators and organizers "go through the motions" of organizing and promoting an event -- reserving a room, writing an email, hanging up a few fliers -- however if the event was a living organism, it would be on life support.

The event seems like it's hanging out in thin air, just waiting for someone -- anyone -- to \ breathe life / into it.

Although this might sound ambiguous, my objective is to bring the event to life, so that it becomes a living organism.

In other words, I BREATHE LIFE into the event. The way I think about it, the way I talk about it, and the way I feel inside myself about it is FULLY ALIVE.

When I do this, an amazing thing happens -- people show up.

They show up with curiosity; they show up with intrigue; and most of all, they arrive ready to learn and integrate what I have to offer.


MY QUESTION FOR YOU:

So my question to you is this: Are you willing to think the thoughts, feel the feelings, and take the actions necessary to create your work so that it's a living organism?

Are you willing to "breathe life" into your work in such a way that it comes alive and becomes an attractive force for others to join with you?