I recently discovered this YouTube video of an African-American man talking about the N-word.
It is an African-American man with the screen name, "NLP NVC" who talks about
how he responds to the "N-word."
I was moved by this, and struck by the congruency with NVC consciousness he
talks with. I wonder if he's studied NVC?
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Almost all his videos are about NVC and I usually enjoy all of them!c
Yeah, I know the guy. He lives in Santa Barbara, California and he is studying NVC.
True. I appreciate the pointing out that we have a choice and if we take something personal, then that is our choice. We don't have to do that. We could inquire more into to find out what the person is attempting to communicate with the use of the "N" word.
What is a person really saying when he or she uses the "N" word? Are they saying it simply as a reference to a black person? OR are they saying essentially (I'd put essentially in italics if I could) that they are angry about something that a black person did which didn't meet their needs?
If they are saying it as a way to say that they are angry about something, in their past or in the present, this is where a black person could take it personal, since they are 'attacking' the color of the person----judging, rather than saying, "Hey, I am angry that you did that or that this other black person in the past did this, because I have a need/ desire for this."
Using this word MAY be a stereotypical judgement that because some black people are like this, all of them are, rather than being present to the specific black person that is in front of them and expressing what their present need or memory is.
Thanks everyone. More peace is created in the world through being more conscious of ourselves and others and through sharing our feelings and needs and desires. I feel touched by your expression Mr. NLP NVC. (did I get your name right?). I hear your call for love, caring, inclusion, fairness, acceptance, and being seen as the beautiful human being that you are, and send you some. I see you and appreciate you. Thanks for speaking up.
Sincerely,
Florence
True. I appreciate the pointing out that we have a choice and if we take something personal, then that is our choice. We don't have to do that. We could inquire more into to find out what the person is attempting to communicate with the use of the "N" word.
What is a person really saying when he or she uses the "N" word? Are they saying it simply as a reference to a black person? OR are they saying essentially (I'd put essentially in italics if I could) that they are angry about something that a black person did?
If they are saying it as a way to say that they are angry about something, in their past or in the present, this is where a black person could take it personal, since they are 'attacking' the color of the person----judging, rather than saying, "Hey, I am angry that you did that or that this other black person in the past did this, because I have a need/ desire for this."
Using this word MAY be a stereotypical judgement that because some black people are like this, all of them are, rather than being present to the specific black person that is in front of them and expressing what their present need or memory is.
Thanks everyone. More peace is created in the world through being more conscious of ourselves and others and through sharing our feelings and needs and desires. I feel touched by your expression Mr. NLP NVC. (did I get your name right?). I hear your call for love, caring, inclusion, fairness, acceptance, and being seen as the beautiful human being that you are, and send you some. I see you and appreciate you. Thanks for speaking up.
Sincerely,
Florence
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